Saturday, Mar. 18, 2006 - 9:18 A.M.
Fact of the Day:
Spouses not infrequently die within a year or two of their mates death.
Here is my own Idiot's Guide For Dummies who can't keep feet out of mouth around Grieving Peeps based on what I have seen in just 6 weeks of widowhood , will add to it as the idiots keep on coming
1. DON'T Attempt to compare THEIR loss to YOURS of an uncle, cousin, cat or dog.
2. DON'T remind them that the deceased was ill for a long time short time or anytime for that matter.
3. DON'T tell them Time will heal.
4.Don't say it is easier to lose a husband than a child.
5. Don't tell them their loved one is in a better place. Wouldn't we ALL be better off there? Duh ?
6. Just shut up and listen. (Or at least don't tell them to get a cat or dog "for company" )
New Chinese Proverb from Kidneygurl:
When somebody you are close to hurts you, cry a river, build a bridge and stagger over it.
Then watch your back so they can't do it again.
